Imagine a world where communication was consistently effective, where misunderstandings were easily rectified and conversation was productive... Amazingly I don't believe you need mood altering substances to achieve this state! Just keep reading...
In the office Here is an astonishing video that demonstrates the Predator, Prey, Partner™ model perfectly. It's also amazing to see this woman in action! While you are watching it, think how you might use the techniques the woman uses to tame some wild animals in your office!
At home Oh, the joys of going to an unknown city in a car with your partner! Unfortunately you left the GPS at home. You know the scene: one of you is driving and one of you is reading the map. You discover you are hopelessly lost and you know what happens next... the blame game starts. Good news - this condition is preventable!
As part of your trip planning process (this might sound a bit premeditated, it's meant to be):
1. Discuss with your partner how you would both like to behave when frustration and disagreements occur (although holidays are the last place we expect to have conflict, we all know that's not the case!)
2. A simple way to communicate when things may be getting out of hand is to use lightness and humor to diffuse things, agree on a mutual expression which either you or your partner can use when one of you is getting frustrated or losing it.
Here are some examples of expressions:
• 'stop stop sugar on top!' • 'come with me to the partner zone!' • 'devil in the house!'
3. Next, as best you can, explain your frustration, speaking slowly and calmly while not taking yourself too seriously.
4. If you fail miserably, taking a moment to analyze how you could have been more effective will help prevent it happening again.
Don't take our word for it We're delighted with the wonderful feedback we frequently receive from our clients. We want to share it with you in the hope that it will inspire you to even greater communication heights.
The Power of Predator Prey Partner
"Over the last 2 years I have had the pleasure of hanging out with Amy from time to time. While I have never attended any formal PPP training, I have been exposed to the principles. It really is powerful stuff, and so easy to learn and use. I am slightly embarrassed to admit that I discovered that in many relationships I ended up being Prey (hard for a guy to admit!). I have experienced quantum shifts in my relationships since I have been practising Partner techniques. All I can say is practise practise practise, as the more you practise PPP the better your relationships will be. It really is that simple. The videos on Amy's website are also wonderful reminders of what to practise.
I can't wait for Amy to run a course I can attend!"
DC, Business Coach and Consultant
* The Predator Prey or Partner™ model is licensed content created by Pat Kirkland of Pat Kirkland Leadership Inc. Founded in 1990, PKL (patkirklandleadership.com) is a company with a purpose, the "soul" purpose of creating a world that works together better. Its business mission is to offer practical, powerful communication programs teaching people how to transform their work relationships by changing how they communicate.